"If you were talking to someone at work, there would be many things that you would not want to discuss at all." (Here you can talk about anything.)
Time
"In your first session with me, there were undoubtedly certain matters that you were not comfortable disclosing." (In this session, you can feel comfortable disclosing anything.)
"In your previous therapy, you may have been unwilling to talk about certain personal matters that were relevant to your problem." (Now you are willing to talk about these matters.)
Events
"I want you to carefully think about which matters are not relevant to your problem, and that you would like to keep entirely to yourself." (You can talk freely about anything that is relevant to the problem.)
"In your normal waking state, of course there are topics that you would be very reluctant to discuss with me." (In trance, you can easily discuss any topic.)
Another way of thinking about implication is that the client's concern, objection, or reluctance is completely acknowledged, at the same time that it is described as being in a different scope (space, time, or event) where it won't interfere with your outcome.
Once Erickson hypnotized a man, and gave him instructions for amnesia. When the man woke up, he said defiantly, "I can recall everything that you did with me." Erickson responded, "That's right. Of course you can remember everything here in my office." Soon after that he asked the man to come with him to the waiting room to show him an article in a magazine. When they got to the waiting room, the man looked puzzled and said, "Wasn't I supposed to have a session with you today?" Then when they went back into the office, he remembered the session again.
When someone is worried and upset about an upcoming event, you can say, "Of course you are worried about it now," and that will imply that they won't worry about it when it actually happens.
If someone is concerned that when they rehearsed a new behavior in their mind it took a lot of effort, you can respond, "Yes, of course, when you rehearsed it now for the first time, it took a lot of conscious effort," that implies that at some later time it will be unconscious and effortless.
Understanding how something works is only the first step in making it into an ability. Like all things, actual practice is what can make it part of your spontaneous behavior; repeated practice can make the skill as automatic and unconscious as the way you generate language or drive a car. If you use the outline above to practice what you have learned, you can establish a basis for a fluent and unconscious skill.
Nonverbal (Contextual) Implication
Nonverbal implication creates a scope that naturally elicits the desired response. It is very common in our everyday communication, particularly in the movements and expressions of the face. The meaning of some nonverbal signals are culturally accepted and recognized, like shaking the head "No," a beckoning hand gesture, or a frown that indicates displeasure. These signals that have agreed-upon meanings are essentially nonverbal "words" that have digital meanings, like the gestures in American Sign Language.
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