When you hear "hypnosis"
you might think of the traditional form of hypnosis where the powerful,
authoritative hypnosis implants suggestions in his subject, such
as, "you are getting sleeeepy. Your eyelids are growing heavier
and heavier. "You will quit smoking," and so on.
But really, hypnotic trance exists in many different forms every
day. Sometimes it is recognized and utilized (hypnotherapy rituals,
or dance, for example), but most of the time it goes unnoticed (daydreaming,
people's behavior on elevators, or irrational fears. to name a few).
In fact, as a practicing hypnotherapist, I believe that people live
most of the lives in one trance or another and my job is generally
not to hypnotize them, but to de-hypnotize them. The true hypnotists
in life are teachers, religious leaders, and even advertisers. The
most powerful hypnosis in anyone’s life, are that individual’s,
parents.
I’ll elaborate on that point in a moment. But allow me to say a
few words about hypnosis, since there are many forms of hypnosis,
and even more misconceptions about hypnosis.
Hypnotherapy is simply the usage of trance for therapeutic purposes.
Traditional hypnotherapy uses commanding language as in the above
example, called direct suggestion. This method sometimes works,
but not for everybody. Some people resist these suggestions, perhaps
because they resent authority figures, and they are sometimes labeled
as "resistant", or worse, "unhypnotizable,"
by traditional hypnotherapists.
But not all hypnotherapists believe in direct suggestions. In fact,
Ericksonian hypnotherapy uses more what is called indirect suggestions.
Indirect suggestions are much harder to resist because they are
often not even recognized as suggestions by the conscious mind,
since they usually disguise themselves as stories or metaphors.
An example of an indirect suggestion: "Perhaps your eyes will
grow tired as you listen to this story, and you will want to close
them, because people can, you know, experience a pleasant, deepening
sense of comfort as they allow their eyes to close, a they relax
deeply." This would all be said in such a way as to mark out
key words and phrases by subtle shifts in the tone of voice. The
person’s unconscious awareness thus responds to these "embedded
commands."
Think about the following scenario. A child of say four or five
years of age is carefully carrying a full glass of milk to the table.
The amateur parent of the child warns in a stern voice, "don't
drop that!" The child looks up at the parent, stumbles a bit,
drops the glass and spills milk everywhere. The now angry parent
yells, "I told you not to drop that! You’re so clumsy. You’ll
never learn!"
As unintentional as It may be, this scenario, is an example of
hypnosis, complete with induction, suggestion, and post hypnotic
suggestion. The powerful authoritative voice (the parent), having
created and utilized through indirect suggestion ("don't drop
that"), an altered state (trance), has issued a direct post-hypnotic
suggestion ("You’re so clumsy. You’ll never learn"). "Post-hypnotic
because, if the child accepts the suggestion (and children often
do), he or she will always see him/herself as clumsy. This post-hypnotic
suggestion by the parent may well adhere to the directive in the
future, sabotaging the child’s success.
We would do well to realize that in a sense we are all hypnotists,
and that if we are parents we have very suggestible subjects in
our care on whom our language may have great effects. We must learn
to give our children positive suggestions.
Let’s explore how the parent could have handled the situation more
scrupulously: First of all there is the confusing directive, "don’t
drop that." Why Is that confusing? Because the human brain
does not know how to compute negations. Let me illustrate by having
you try a little experiment: For the next fifteen seconds do not
think about your breathing. Don't think about whether you are breathing
up high in your chest or down low in your abdomen, or whether you
are taking deep or shallow breaths. Just don't think about it at
all.
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